Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

I think I am not good in EQ ~ Emotional Intelligence.
Easily get very upset when things doesn't turn out to be what I expected.

Have a thought to online searching for how to improve in EQ & come across this information :

What is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and diffuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.

If you have a high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life. 

Emotional intelligence consists of four attributes:

• Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior, know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.
• Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.
• Social awareness – You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
• Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.
  

   

  Developing emotional intelligence through five key skills:

  Emotional intelligence consists of five key skills, each building on the last:
  
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 1: The ability to quickly reduce stress.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 2: The ability to recognize and manage your emotions.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 3: The ability to connect with others using nonverbal communication.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 4: The ability to use humor and play to deal with challenges.
• Emotional intelligence (EQ) skill 5: The ability to resolve conflicts positively and with confidence.
  

   

[Source : http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eq5_raising_emotional_intelligence.htm]

I got come across with some friends who are really having good EQ, if you are teasing on them indirectly, but they will still treat as jokes in return or ease the circumstances.
I'm the type put all feelings showing tru my face, means I'm not good in hiding my true feeling.
Like means like, don't like means don't like.

In fact, in actual & social life...we cannot simply behave as we want or "like".
Therefore, I'm thinking....whether too high of EQ will becoming a fake/acting person.
(Coz seems like don't like but still pretend to be nothing...)

Well, I guess it is very much depending on how you react & we cannot do much on how others would perceive you, gua.....

But, I start to learn now..it will going to benefit me in certain ways..